Top 9 Relationship Myths

My partner and I need to have each other's Instagram/phone/SnapChat passwords so we know we can trust each other.

Passwords to your social media accounts and email are private and you have the right to not share that information. You have the right to privacy and your partner should respect that and not try to invade it.

They paid for the date and I flirted with them. so I owe them sex.

You never owe sex to anyone for any reason. If you are on a date and someone tries to pressure you into sex or traps you so it is hard to get away, you have the right to say no and you can change your mind at any time.

Love means never having to say you are sorry.

If your partner refuses to admit when they have done something wrong or blames you when they make a mistake, it can be a sign of an abusive relationship. Everyone, even your parents or your boss, should be willing to admit when they have done something wrong.

If my partner really loved me, they should be willing to change for me.

Everyone has the right to be loved and respected for who he or she is. If your partner does not respect who you are and wants you to change part of your personality or your life goals to fit them, it could be a sign you are in an abusive relationship.

It is normal for my partner to tell me not to be friends with someone. Jealousy means they love me enough to care if someone flirts with me.

You have the right to be friends with and talk to whomever you want. Your partner cannot dictate with whom you will be friends with, when you will see them, and for how long. Extreme jealousy or possessiveness can be a sign that you are in an abusive relationship.

Constantly calling/texting to see where I am is normal. It means my partner cares.

You have the right to see your friends without having to tell your partner where you are every second or having to constantly check in with your partner. If they are calling or texting all the time to check on you, you could be in an abusive relationship.

Obviously it is not an abusive relationship. If it were abusive, they would want to leave.

People stay in abusive relationships for a lot of reasons including finances, kids, fear of leaving, guilt for being with this person, and feeling trapped. But, choosing to stay does not mean the relationship is not abusive or that you are okay with it. 

Women make false rape accusations all the time and men have to pay the price.

The FBI reports that only 8% of all rape accusations are proved to be false after an investigation. In comparison, only 35% of all sexual assaults are ever reported to police. So, including all unreported and reported claims, only about 2.8% of them are false.

We are not dating, so it is not abuse/abuse only happens to straight couples.

You have the right to feel safe in any relationships, even if you are not officially a couple or you/your partner identify as LGBTQ+. If they disrespect, control, threaten, harass, stalk, or manipulate you,  it is an abusive relationship.

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